Occam's Razor suggests that Alexi didn't sign the divorce papers out of general apathy rather than "like totally wanting to stay married to Kim despite, yanno, choosing to live on separate sides of the world and dating other people." Alexi lived in the moment.

To be honest, both of these ex-spouses sound like vultures fighting over his opulent corpse. I hope Alexi's whole estate goes to a mallcore rehabilitation facility. Or, like, an actual rehab facility.

Full respect to Alexi and everything he accomplished, but man, he must have really loved getting trashed to eventually die from it.

Hate to say that his cause of death comes as absolutely 0% surprise. Would be nice if the women could stop making all this drama public though. These are things that should be sorted among oneselves, not with statements and gofundme pages.

The point of Kimberly seems to be that Alexi chose not to divorce her rather than Kimberly forcing him to stay married to her by refusing to sign the divorce papers, like Alexi's girlfriend said. Since the marriage laws in Finland actually allows people to get divorced without the approval of their spouse, it seems to mean that Alexi's girlfriend is spreading lies about the matter.

Tonmi Lillman (played drums in Sinergy 1999-2002, and loads of other bands) died from basically the same stuff in 2012, when he wasn't yet forty. Kim Goss was very happy when he was no longer in the band and called him a huge problem.
Looks like that example didn't teach anyone anything.

Not saying you're incorrect, but do you have a source for this (regarding Lillman's cause of death)? His page on here says "Lillman died on 14 February 2012, the cause of his death is still unknown."

He died from drugs and alcohol – too much shit.

How much does one drink, to actually get to the point of death?

Also depends on what else you're doing. Other drugs in addition to alcohol (which he appears to have been doing) are bad enough, and in addition to those, Alexi is definitely the kind of dude who I could have seen snorting lines of blow when it's an hour before he has to hit the stage and he's so drunk he can barely even walk, and that also doesn't do great things for the body. Getting fucked up every night and going as hard as possible every night on the road until you collapse in your bunk for over a month on end, then coming back home and not changing your habits very much for three weeks before you go right back out to do it all over again is not a lifestyle conducive to long-term survival, and he had lived like that since his late teens. I guarantee you that he was already falling apart in the first half of his thirties.

alcohol-induced degeneration of the liver and pancreas connective tissue." Furthermore, Laiho had a cocktail of painkillers, opioids and insomnia medication in his system.

It's nobody's business how and why he died. That kind of information should be kept secret. If he had wanted to share this information with the rest of the world or start some charity fundraising, he would have done or organized it while he was still alive.

Alexi Laiho cannot be buried - a big quarrel broke out between the relatives and the widow
Today at 12:49

Children of Bodom guitarist Alexi Laiho, who died in December, has not been able to rest in the grave.
Relatives are now arguing with the widow over the rights to the urn.

Children of Bodom guitarist and frontman Alexi Laiho died in Helsinki on December 29 at the age of 41. His funeral was held on January 28 at Malmi Chapel, after which he was cremated on site.

Contrary to popular belief, Alexi Laiho has not yet been able to rest in the grave.

Iltalehti interviewed guitar legend's sister Anna Laiho . According to him, widow Kimberly Goss wants to prevent Alexi from burial despite the grieving family’s wishes and appeals.

- The grief work has not yet begun. Only when these things become clear can our grief work begin. It has been really difficult for the family, says Anna Laiho to Iltalehti.

The family wanted to hold Alexi Laiho’s funeral in January only in the presence of family and closest friends.

The reason was both the prevailing corona situation and the guitarist's desire to respect his privacy during his lifetime.

The family tried to communicate the matter beautifully to Kimberly Goss, who is officially Laiho’s widow. Although the couple ended more than 10 years ago and Laiho already had a new spouse, no formal divorce application was ever filed. That’s why Goss is still legally Laiho’s spouse.

- We haven't been in contact with Kimberly in 20 years, so we wouldn't have wanted him on the scene. When he was dating Alex, the relationship was very contentious. The family was relieved when it ran out, Anna Laiho explains.

According to the sister, the widow did not agree to miss the funeral, but initially demanded two separate funerals.

- We managed to hold a beautiful blessing in spite of everything. The urn date had already been agreed. Then I got in touch with the funeral home that Goss’s lawyer had been in contact with them and blocked the urn.

Alexi Laiho's urn is currently waiting at the Helsinki Parish Association's premises in Malmi. A beautiful graveyard and a large tombstone have already been reserved for the guitarist from Malmi Cemetery, at the foot of which even fans could leave their greetings.

- Alexi is now waiting to be buried there. The urn will not be handed over to anyone until we reach an agreement on who will bury Alex. This has been really heavy for parents. They would like their dead son to be buried honorably, but Kimberly blocks it. He wants to lower the urn himself and arrange an event with the urn.

Anna Laiho is the guitarist's only sister. He describes the situation as unsustainable for the family.

- We have thought that there is certainly no other option here than to take the matter to the district court. We will probably sue, even if we don’t, because it will be a cost for everyone and the parents would not be able to handle the litigation at all. We would not want to do that, but it seems that an agreement cannot be reached in any other way, says Anna Laiho.

Alex's will
If the deceased has no heirs, the widow will inherit the property of the deceased spouse, unless the deceased has bequeathed it to someone else, says the oikeus.fi website .

Alexi Laiho had no children.

According to her sister, the Children of Bodom guitarist tried in her last months to get Kimberly Goss to sign a marriage contract.

Alexi Laiho wanted Goss to relinquish her right to marry in the marriage contract.

- Kimberly never agreed to put her name under this marriage contract. The conversation lasted until Aleksi died. I have the impression that, especially in recent times Aleksi activated in terms of that marriage contract, says sister.

According to her sister, Alexi dreamed towards the end of her life that she would be able to move permanently to her Australian husband Kelli Wright-Laiho .

Instead, he died at home in Helsinki.

Alexi Laiho made a will before his death.

According to it, the entire property of Alexi Laiho goes to the parents. Kimberly Goss, who otherwise inherited Alex as a widow, was completely excluded from the will.

- Kimberly is entitled to a flat rate, but once it is paid, the entire property goes to the parents. Kimberly has refused to sign the service of the will, although she has publicly stated that she wants to work with the family.

Iltalehti has seen a will made in Helsinki.

The sister says she took care of the estate and funeral arrangements with the parents' power of attorney. Iltalehti has seen the power of attorney. By decision of the Helsinki District Court, Kimberly had previously acquired an external liquidator.

According to Alexi Laiho's sister, the family asked Goss to keep the cause of death as his own information. Iltalehti has seen the exchange of messages on this issue.

- The publication of the cause of death was not made in agreement with our family. Kimberly published details of Alex's death against the will of the family. She was well aware that we did not want this publication, Anna Laiho says.

- Kimberly, as a legal wife, has the right to demand that information. He demanded that information through his lawyer. As a family, we expressed the hope that this information would not be published, but he nevertheless went to do so.

According to her sister, Alexi Laiho protected her privacy while living. The family believes the guitarist would not have wanted to disclose the details of his death.

- Aleksi wanted to keep his own health information out of the public while he was alive. Based on that, we family members also concluded that he would not have wanted this information to be made public. Unfortunately, our opinion on this matter was not listened to. The damage has occurred. It’s a shame because we would have liked Alex to be remembered for his musical merits, not the weaknesses he had.

Iltalehti did not reach Kimberly Goss to comment on the issues raised in the article.

I believe the reason the cause of death was released, at least according to the article was so that his death may help others. I believe the article said his former wife made this decision, to show that those in need of help should seek treatment. There are people that care about you and there are options for those suffering from addictions. You are not alone and if you do not seek help, unfortunately it may kill you leaving loves ones devastated.

Yup. If the family/closed ones don't want to divulge the cause of death, that's fine, but if they do, it's not on others to wag their fingers at them. Making causes of death some sort of taboo, when a lot of people die from the same causes precisely because the taboo means they're less likely to get help, literally helps no one.

According to Alexi Laiho's sister, the family asked Kimberly Goss to keep the cause of death as her own information. Iltalehti has seen the exchange of messages on this issue.

- The publication of the cause of death was not made in agreement with our family. Kimberly published details of Alex's death against the will of the family. She was well aware that we did not want this go public, Anna Laiho says.

- Kimberly, as a legal wife, had the right to demand that information (cause of death). She demanded that information through her lawyer. As a family, we expressed the hope that this information would not have been published, but she nevertheless went to do so.

Thanks for the article!

This particular thing that his sister says feels so... antiquated. As if his "weaknesses" made him a lesser person somehow.

She just might be afraid of people starting to focus more on his alcoholism (the ''weakness'') more than what he did for the music scene etc..

Which I highly doubt would ever happen.

I don't think she meant it that way. She just might be afraid of people starting to focus more on his alcoholism (the ''weakness'') more than what he did for the music scene etc..

Which I highly doubt would ever happen.